I have always wanted three kids. I am one of three, my husband is one of three, anI love the idea of my children each having two different siblings to play with, laugh with, and lean on for support.
I have always wanted three kids. I am one of three, my husband is one of three, and I love the idea of my children each having twosiblings to play with, laugh with, and lean on for support. What I didn’t know when I was planning my idealistic future family was that I would be diagnosed with infertility at age 27 and go through a long road of failed IUIs and IVF to even get pregnant in the first place. Talk about a wrench in my plans.
But what I’ve learned is that infertility doesn’t magically go away when you become a mom. While I was busy soaking in every waking moment with my twins, there was always this nagging voice inside my head reminding me that the clock was ticking if I wanted to give them a sibling. I guess that’s just another side effect of IVF—even when you finally have success, it’s hard not to think about whether the next go-around will be equally as tough.
But with no end to the pandemic in sight, I eventually got tired of putting our lives on hold. When my twins were 2 ½ years old, I caught myself thinking, “I wish I could just have sex and get pregnant,” and that was the clarity I needed. If we could conceive the ‘old-fashioned way’ with no regrets, why was I questioning IVF so intensely? I scheduled an appointment with the fertility clinic the next day. Clear eyes, full hearts, can’t lose .