When Tarang Chawla's sister Niki was murdered many people immediately assumed it was her fault and they weren’t afraid to say it. | OPINION familyviolence domesticviolence theresnoplacelikehome
We had plans for Sunday lunch and I texted her on the Thursday night leading up to the weekend, “Are you going to be there?”Separation and the period immediately following it, is one of the single most dangerous times for any woman who has been in an abusive relationship.The following morning, two uniformed Victoria Police officers knocked on our front door. They came to tell us that Niki was murdered by her partner in the middle of the night on Friday, January 9, 2015.
Many people immediately assumed that Niki’s murder was her own fault and they weren’t afraid to say it. My family received many victim blaming messages from seemingly well-educated people. I distinctly remember one person telling me “What did she think would happen? She got what she deserves,” while others, including some journalists, pointedly asked questions like, “Why didn’t she just leave?” as if we could furnish them with an appropriate response.
What society often fails to grasp is the fact that the precursors to homicide, such as non-physical forms of abuse and coercive control, wear down victim-survivors, with many victims even blaming themselves for their own abuse. Yet, financial factors such as a risk of homelessness and access to financial resources are just two of the reasons women are trapped with their abuser. And this is the case despite the fact that family violence is one of the leading causes of homelessness for Australian women.
South Africa Latest News, South Africa Headlines
Similar News:You can also read news stories similar to this one that we have collected from other news sources.
The question too many of us still ask about abusive relationshipsWhen tarang_chawla's sister Niki was murdered many people immediately assumed it was her fault and they weren’t afraid to say it. | OPINION familyviolence domesticviolence theresnoplacelikehome
Read more »
I had anorexia in the 1970s – and it came back in lockdown | Ask PhilippaThe loneliness that triggered this was not your fault, says Philippa Perry. Have self compassion and get professional help
Read more »
Buckley, Treloar no longer on speaking terms after relationship breakdownNathan Buckley has made several extraordinary claims in an interview where he also spills details on his broken relationship with Adam Treloar.
Read more »
With just 61 people in hotel quarantine, experts question program’s worthA total of five people have tested positive to COVID-19 in hotel quarantine in the past fortnight, during which time tens of thousands of local cases were recorded.
Read more »
Defense and cybersecurity stocks climb amid Russia’s invasion of UkraineMost major US markets closed lower after regaining some losses but defense contractors continued to gain
Read more »
‘What Australia did’: Gates’ advice to nationsThe international rich lister applauded Australia’s response and advocated for other countries to follow our approach in any future pandemic.
Read more »