Mom Of ‘Perfect’ Kids Can’t Lie To Cousin Saying Her Baby Is Not ‘The Ugliest’, Asks For Advice But Gets Blasted Instead Baby Advice
After reading the post, the community members shared a deluge of reactions about just how entitled and out-of-touch with reality this mother seems to be. The Redditor who shared these screenshots on the platform later revealed in the comments that the woman has already deleted her post from the group. Although they did mention that the mom received some equally “brutally honest” remarks from fellow parents who came across her inquiry.
While the woman showed a lack of respect towards her cousin and the baby, she also seems to have overvalued her own children by saying they are simply the best and most gorgeous babies on the planet. Apparently, there’s a concept of parental overvaluation that’s exceptionally high in narcissistic parents. Eddie Brummelman, an Associate Professor at the University of Amsterdam, the Netherlands,in an article on The Conversation about a series of studies he conducted to examine this phenomenon.
Across six studies involving over 1,700 Dutch and American parents, the researchers found there are important differences between parents in how strongly they overvalue their child and that these disparities shape parents’ thoughts and behaviors. Some of their findings include that overvaluing moms and dads overestimate their child’s knowledge, perceive them as more gifted, and want their kid to stand out from the crowd .
“Not all parents are equally inclined to overvalue,” Brummelman explained. “We found that narcissistic parents, who believe they are superior to others and who want to be admired by others, are especially inclined toward it.” But why, you ask? One prospect is that narcissistic parents try to put themselves on a pedestal. “Because parents often see their child as part of themselves, admiring their child may also be an indirect way of admiring themselves. Another possibility is that narcissistic parents simply believe that the child has inherited their ‘wonderful qualities’.”