A letter writer is annoyed at their sister for pulling out a calculator when the dinner bill came.
I was getting annoyed and said, “What’s the difference if it’s $20 off? Who cares? We’ll get you next time.”
This is not a woman who needs the money. She mentioned her $80,000 car. She brought a half-empty bottle of wine, which she said was $100. She drank it and did not offer any. This person is my sister. What do I do?was by the late arrival of your sister in the question, Miss Manners admits that does not materially affect her answer. If the goal for an evening out cannot be conviviality, it should at least be to minimize hostility.
We usually reply “none” and explain that our daughter was unable to have children. That statement seems to leave the hearer in an awkward position on how to further respond. Do you have a suggestion on how we could eliminate the awkwardness on both sides?your daughter’s intimate medical history, certainly. “We don’t have any” would answer the question.
But Miss Manners realizes what you are really asking is how to stop people from asking. While she is happy to remind her readers that such a question can be hurtful, she asks you to remember that it is probably not intentionally so.I am an introvert and only go out when I want to do so. I feel that my time is my own, after retiring from a very demanding and responsible position where I was constantly working with other people to solve their problems.
So when people knock on my door, I simply do not want to be bothered. I’m just curious: Is there anything wrong with ignoring it? I only have one person who drops by.positions of little responsibility have Miss Manners’ blessing not to answer their front door — assuming, of course, it was not in response to a previously issued invitation, and that they refrain from making their presence too obvious by glaring through the curtains.
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