Discover the importance of saying no and setting boundaries in order to avoid resentment and maintain personal well-being.
It’s hard to remember what it was like saying “yes” all the time. Yes to that steering committee. Yes to that program group. Yes to that entire(oops!). Yes to mentoring requests. Yes to boards and executive committees. Yes to a free talk, a guest appearance, hosting someone in my home. Yes, yes, yes. Until I grew resentful, my life energy draining and sputtering out, and I knew, as Malachy McCourt once said, “ Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.
” Someone had to teach me how to say “no.” It seems so easy: “No.” We’ve all heard: “It’s a complete sentence.” Sparser than “yes,” and it’s not like I didn’t say “no” all the time… when my kids were in danger, when I didn’t want a second helping, when I knew an answer was incorrect. Did I simply have professional and social FOMO?of missing out on committee meetings and bylaw klatches (save me!). But yes, fear of missing out on being in the room where it happened, with the people who made it happe
Saying No Setting Boundaries Resentment Personal Well-Being Self-Improvement