Discussions about a career change expose a couple’s differing views on the privacy of their conversations.
The other day, my girlfriend and I were at dinner with some friends of ours, a couple. I was deeply shocked when our friends asked me for an update on a major career decision I’m in the middle of making. I had not told them anything about it, though my girlfriend and I have talked about it daily for weeks.I gave them a non-answer and laughed it off, but it has led to some serious relationship tension.
Thinking that my or anyone’s confirmation of your reasonableness will make any difference here is unreasonable. In this situation, your girlfriend apparently didn’t know you felt this way about your major decision. That seems pretty normal to me, both ways: You just assumed People Don’t Share These Things because that’s your view, and she just assumed People Share These Things because that’s her view. They’re both valid views; you both made the rookie mistake of thinking that if you think it, then it must apply to everyone.
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