Writer is unsure what to tell this friend who asks for opinions on things she wants to do.
I don’t want to pretend I think retail therapy when you’re broke is a great form of self-care. She also calls to complain about things going poorly in her life, but then she gets annoyed when I respond with what I would do in her situation. The only other option seems to be to respond, “That’s awful, I’m sorry,” over and over again, which feels bad? What else should I be doing here? I hate seeing my friend in these situations.
When the whole show is getting you down, then remind yourself that you aren’t going to rescue or fix or even help her by figuring out exactly the right way to talk to her, and she may not even need or want fixing anyway. Any helping will happen when she’s ready to do things differently and invites your input, and she’s is clearly not there. Not now and maybe not ever. So you can only be true to yourself and respectful of her autonomy, no matter how badly you think she drives it.
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