After needing family support through financial struggles, this letter writer is tired of the questions about their situation now.
I’m 26 and have been living on my own in an apartment for two years. I ran into some financial difficulties and had to get some money from my grandpa and parents.
It’s gotten to the point where I dread seeing them, because I know they’re going to ask me again and talk to me like a child. If I needed help, I would tell them, but their constant badgering is making me feel ashamed of being low-income and anxious about our next interactions.This is a growing pain for all involved. Your parents and grandparents are learning, perhaps not quickly enough, that you’re an independent person capable of managing your own finances.
And then propose new ways. Do you want to get advice about your budget but not have to justify your expenses? Say that. Do you want to put a moratorium on money talk altogether? Say that. You don't owe them a full accounting.Do this at a time when you’re not feeling defensive. It will help you speak more clearly.
I do not want to be the first to act, or that person, but feel that if I don’t, no one will. Am I being rude or am I justified? Am I wrong in thinking it’s exhausting to worry about how others will judge you if you do what will make social experiences move along?In the mid-’80s murder mystery film “Clue,” Mrs. Peacock finds herself at a deathly boring party . Faced with awkward silence, she says, “Well, someone’s got to break the ice and it might as well be me.
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