Plus: Should I say something to these moms about how their teens hurt my son?
Recently I complimented a woman after her 60th birthday by saying, “You look good for 60.”Dear Bewildered:
I’m going to sidestep my own observations on why you might be a “bachelor,” and head straight to your bewilderment.First of all, it’s not necessary to comment on someone’s looks in any context – unless they invite you to. As the woman you damned with faint praise implied through her pointed response, you’ve made an assumption of what 60 is supposed to look like, and – quite simply – we 60-year-old crones have the right to reject your assumption.
There is only one context where this comment might be received positively, and that would be on the day of this woman’s 90th birthday.My son graduated from high school recently and a few weeks later discovered, via social media, that his six best high school friends went on a graduation trip to Europe without him.It’s not clear to either of us why they did this. He reached out to a couple of them via text, and didn’t really get any explanation.
I’m afraid it’s the sort of rejection or betrayal that you don’t get over that easily. He’s leaving for college soon and I’m concerned that this will prevent him from creating new friendships and trusting people.Am I overreacting? Should I ask the other moms what led to this, or do I let him figure it out?Related Articles
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