My parents’ health issues must come first right now, but my husband is unsupportive: Ask Ellie
Q What does one do when everything’s falling apart? My mother, 65, is already losing her memory. She loves my children but doesn’t remember to answer their texts and has “lost” her minimal tech skills. My father, 70, is preoccupied with medical issues, including bladder trouble.
But how do I follow my parents’ lifetime example of always helping out those who need it, and also always considering your partner’s needs to keep your relationship strong?Choosing the top priority is simple when someone close is at serious risk. But with both your parents experiencing difficult health challenges, you need focused energy and shared decision-making with those you trust, including relatives who are also affected.
Deal with the big issues one day at a time, not all at once. And remember your parents’ own wise advice to “consider your partner’s needs, to keep your relationship strong.”