Advice | Carolyn Hax: I’m concerned because she’s keeping up this farce and not doing anything with her life. As a concerned friend, should I confront her, or is this a mind-my-own-business kind of thing?
This week, her boyfriend confided in me that my friend actually stopped enrolling in classes two years ago and is going to tell everyone she decided to switch majors. He said it’s been such a burden, because he’s the only one who knows — until now. Her parents have invested so much money in her education, and they don’t know. I guess they aren’t checking too closely. I’m concerned because she’s keeping up this farce and not doing anything with her life.
The trajectory you describe — struggling, dropping out, lying to cover it up, seeking pain relief in constant gaming or other habitual escapism — can be part of a depression-anxiety-shame spiral. As always, I say this with the caveat that I am not a licensed health professional of any kind.
· Thank you so much for your answer. The pretender doesn’t need confrontation, but support — desperately. She should know that she’s not alone in concocting her charade — and that friend and boyfriend will continue to love her through coming clean. · As someone with ADHD who struggled to focus and wasted a lot of time, I would say to talk to your friend . There is so much shame about not being as productive as other people, and for years I thought I was just stupid. Your friend is embarrassed and is avoiding. Give her a hug and have a talk.
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